When does anger become a negative? Reflections on the Tucson Tragedy…Each one of us needs to do our part.
Sunday, January 9th, 2011As I reflect on yesterday’s tragic shootings in Tucson, Arizona, I find it brings up for me many questions. How about you? Questions such as:
- Can incidents like this be prevented in the future?
- What is the true, full story of what led this young man, Jared Lee Loughner, to do what he did?
- How much was the ‘verbal political vitriol’ present in today’s world (and spread more widely/rapidly because of today’s technology, and practiced by some of today’s politicians and entertainment figures) part of the cause, if at all?
- Do we have a failed mental health and/or criminal justice system?
- How do we reconcile the issue of ‘freedom to carry guns’ with the need to provide some level of protection?
I do know this: all of us have an emotional ‘system’ if you will, that includes the tool of anger. And, if we look at the issue of evolution, it’s true that today is a time where many of us are ‘catching up’ to become more skilled in the healthy acknowledgement and expression of this important emotion.  We can’t, for example, go out and punch someone for a verbal disagreement like some of our ancestors did.


Barb Elgin, MSW, LCSW, Certified Singles Coach, is a lesbian dating and relationship expert and matchmaker.
